At what point do you know if the new people you've met are going to stay in your life or not? Another chicken and egg situation that I have had a hard time resolving. On the one hand if you assume that they won't, you won't invest your best and that is the first self enforcing assumption. But of course if you do assume that they will and you make a better impression than they expected, it's equally likely to be the other self enforcing assumption. Of course the other two trivial possibilities being, where both of you assume symmetrically.
It's somewhat annoying that I think about it more often than I'd like. Over many years too. This is something that in my opinion should be figured out in your teenage years or maybe in early 20s.
Anyhow, random trivial thoughts on the matter:
It's not out choice to come into this world, it may be our choice to go away. Best is to give it all you got. To make a parallel, one can talk of various opportunities. It's not your choice for an opportunity to chance on you. You best be prepared to capitalize. Opportunity could be a person.
Opportunities, like any other things may be false positives or false negatives. How does one tell whether the person you're about to --want-- to let into your life is rather of the class of relationships that are best kept ephemeral? It's a hard problem.
The best solution, like always that I find is: Hope for the best, in each instance.
It's somewhat annoying that I think about it more often than I'd like. Over many years too. This is something that in my opinion should be figured out in your teenage years or maybe in early 20s.
Anyhow, random trivial thoughts on the matter:
It's not out choice to come into this world, it may be our choice to go away. Best is to give it all you got. To make a parallel, one can talk of various opportunities. It's not your choice for an opportunity to chance on you. You best be prepared to capitalize. Opportunity could be a person.
Opportunities, like any other things may be false positives or false negatives. How does one tell whether the person you're about to --want-- to let into your life is rather of the class of relationships that are best kept ephemeral? It's a hard problem.
The best solution, like always that I find is: Hope for the best, in each instance.
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